A Collection of Good DDlg Resources & info for the Beginner or curious ( Great for BDSM Daddys ,Caregivers,too)

I have almost 7 years Experience in the DDlg world & 3+ Decades in the BDSM World (in one form or another), I have never experienced a Vanilla relationship or sex (Vanilla=non kink/BDSM), I am no expert, I don't think anyone is as the learning never stops, I do however know what to look for and the keywords to use when I am hunting down information,  I always provide links to the resources, and give credit to the original authors, (it's the right thing to do) feel free to use anything in my Blog, just kindly drop a link to my blog and give me some credit for providing you with content and info, also include a link to your blog/post I'd very much like to read, if you leave a link in the comments to your blog on any site I will follow and post your blog link on the side bar so others can find you as well --->
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DDlg Briefly explained in the simplest terms :

What is DDlg?.. DDlg is short for Daddy Dom & little girl, MDlg is Mommy Domme & little girl, CG is Caregiver as some are neither Daddy or Mommy, and there are little's who are boys as well... a DDlg-MDlg-CGlg relationship is between 2 CONSENTING ADULTS never any minors/underage/non adult, littles, the minors will argue that they are littles, but the reality is NO they are NOT, they are simply role players, not actual littles, avoid them like the plague, you can get in huge legal trouble talking to them, remember 14 will get you 40 (years in prison) ... just avoid anyone under 18 and you will be fine. 

I, like the vast majority Do NOT support minors at all anywhere near this way of life or anywhere near any part of BDSM or the community.

DDlg is on the outer fringes of the BDSM Umbrella as it is on the border of taboo, &  makes many people in the BDSM community uncomfortable, and it can down right freak the Vanilla world out, the most common misguided and very wrong thoughts are.. pedophilia, incest, or Daddy issues... Non of which is remotely true... it is a different type of Dom- sub dynamics and relationships nothing more.

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DDlg Resources & info

I came across this WordPress blog some time ago and thought it to be cute and very informative & has some good recipes on it as well,  good information from a little's POV 

BDSM Playpen

This one states its the ultimate guide to DDlg Relationships, it is extremely informative, has videos and links galore, has quizzes and much more, it is written in easy to understand words and can take you down deep into the rabbit hole with the plethora of links and info.. it's very helpful ....

Ultimate DDlg guide...( great resource and info site)

This is a great site, the post on it is from a little who explains what it's like to be in a DDlg relationship, it's beautiful and will paint you an honest picture of what life can be like in this dynamic, keep in mind everyone's dynamics are different but we all share 1 common core, and that is we are DDlg-MDlg-CGlg ( or b)

what it's like to be in a DDlg Relationship

Okay, last link for this post, here is another splendid resource, explains DDlg Beautifully, also has links and a plethora of resources, to take you even deeper into the proverbial rabbit hole....  

What is a DDlg Relationship (resources & info)

I hope this has been of help to anyone reading this, if you have any questions or would like more information about BDSM or DDlg or any thing under the BDSM umbrella feel free to ask in the comment section, I try to keep this blog in very simple layman's terms easy to understand words as I am writing this blog with the Curious or Novice in mind, but the blog itself is for everyone (Adult) regardless of experience or knowledge. 

I am by no means an expert in anything, I am experienced in a great many things but that does NOT make me an expert at all, I am always learning something new, I am constantly researching and networking with others.

Have a great night/Day all xoxo

Lesli 

BDSM 101: Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)

Copied and reposted from this word press site--->  Consensual Non Consent - what is it?
I own nothing of this content ....

The two basic negotiation concepts used in the BDSM community are SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) and RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). An extension of these concepts is consensual non-consent.

CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENSUALITY

A mutual agreement that within defined limits, or subject to a safe word or other restrictions, and to common sense, consent to activities is given without foreknowledge of the exact actions planned. Very common (and pretty much necessary!) for activities such as kidnap or rape play, where prior discussion would destroy much of the “atmosphere”—like spoiling a surprise party. Examples: an agreement that anything rated “2” or higher in a submissive survey is “fair game” for play, without additional discussion or negotiation; or negotiation of kidnap play in advance, but without disclosing when, where, or the details of the scene.

Fetlife: Glossary of Kink

The basis of consensual non-consent is: “I consent for You to do whatever You like to me without future negotiation”. There is just the first consent. Yes, I consent to whatever is going to happen, without needing to further negotiate what is going to happen. Obviously, strong trust is involved.

There are many reasons why consensual non-consent is a common way for BDSM partners to play. It is a strong reinforcement of the power exchange, and it supports mystery, spontaneity and excitement from the unknown. Many people argue that SSC (safe, sane and consensual) takes away the ultimate BDSM experiences in exchange for relatively safe exploration.

Of course, every kinkster needs to approach consensual non-consent with caution, particularly if you are new to BDSM or new to the partner you are playing with. You wouldn’t be the first person to get yourself involved in knife-play before realising that you are having your first panic attack, or discover that your Dom forgot to mention that He was into needles (and you forgot to mention that you are freaked out by piercing). Be careful. Psychological damage can ruin your fun, possibly forever.

There are others who don’t just “play” BDSM but live and breathe BDSM in everyday life. Often, consensual non-consent is established the moment the collar is locked. There is no need for further negotiation between Master and slave, simply because by that point both the Master and the slave have already established a strong understanding about each other’s body, mind and spirit. They know what works and what doesn’t, where the hard limits is, when things go wrong.

It’s not necessary that consensual non-consent is a goal in your BDSM journey. It’s not a progression or a rite of passage. How you play is up to you to choose and no style is “better”. It depends on what you want, who you are with and what you are comfortable with. SSC, RACK and CNC are all valid mottos to live and play by. The key over-riding principle is to stay safe and not let anyone push you into agreeing to something you don’t feel confident agreeing to.

IS CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT SAFE?

Nothing is safe in BDSM, in fact, nothing is safe in life. Accidents happen every day with or without kink activities. But, we try to predict and minimise the risks.

Consensual Non-Consent may not be safe for people who are just starting to test out their kinks, because my experience is that a lot of BDSM activities are different than you imagine them to be. The whip in your imagination doesn’t taste the same as a real whip. Without real experiences, one can never be sure of what works and what doesn’t.

But, when there is trust and you and your partner have a good understanding of each other, consensual non-consent can allow you explore further than you might be able to otherwise. It can be a tool for going deeper and examining your limits.

How much is too much for my slave? Will putting him/her in a cage for 2 hours drive him mad? How about a day, a weekend or a week? What are the real limits? How far can this go?

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I have neglected this blog for awhile, my apologies, life gets in the way, also I run 2 Blogs on Wordpress, one is simply about my piddly @ss life from a little pov (except recently the adulty me has been posting) and the other is about Abuse of all types & human trafficking both subjects I am a survivor of, those 2 often get put into online magazines ( and I am so grateful for the exposure) also I have a 3rd that is a daily journal for my Mamma to keep tabs on me, it is also linked to my Tumblr which is a catch all hodge podge random mess of stuff I like or stuff I post. 

So for the next little bit I am going to start reposting resources  & blog links to great sources of info on various subjects within the BDSM world. 

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as always .. ask if you need to know something, correct me if I am wrong, tell me how I am going to hell etc in the comment box ( or you could just say hello) 

~Chaos Inc.~